What’s the worst possible thing you can call a woman? Don’t hold back, now.
You’re probably thinking of words like slut, whore, bitch, cunt (I told you not to hold back!), skank.
Okay, now, what are the worst things you can call a guy? Fag, girl, bitch, pussy. I’ve even heard the term “mangina.”
Notice anything? The worst thing you can call a girl is a girl. The worst thing you can call a guy is a girl. Being a woman is the ultimate insult. Now tell me that’s not royally fucked up.
Jessica Valenti, Full Frontal Feminism: A Young Woman’s Guide to Why Feminism Matters (via words-and-coffee)
Oooo, folks got real grumpy about that last post. Good job me.
…here’s the thing with saying that a woman should expect to be hit if she strikes a man first…if you believe this you may think to yourself EQUAL RIGHTS means EQUAL RIGHTS.
When you watch that Ray Rice video- she shoves him and he KNOCKS HER OUT. Unconscious. This can serve as a metaphor (an exhausting one) for almost all interactions women can have with men when they assert some sort of equality in ANYTHING. Men can leverage their privilege (whether that be greater body strength, or their more impressive pay checks, or their “in” with the boss over golf clubs etc.) to knock women right on out. There is NOTHING equal there.
If you believe that men and women have equal footing you have privilege and should check yourself and that privilege. All the men in your life treat you with respect, and view you as an equal? Awesome. Sadly, that is not the norm. Get in with the sisterhood here, support the women who don’t have this privilege.
Stop shaking your head and saying she should have seen it coming.
When women are assertive instead of bitchy, or when breasts don’t get in the way of getting a job, or when a man who is shoved by a woman doesn’t respond with force enough to remove her conscious self..then we can talk about equality.